Article Brothers! Remember to fuel up the "Love" Tank!

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  1. Hammad Hamid

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    Salam to all my friends who are married , going to marry soon and who haven't thought about it yet. Here is a little introduction about the key component in the lives of married and unmarried people. Yes hopefully you must have already guessed it.... that is "LOVE". Or "HUUB" in Arabic.

    My dear friends , LOVE is a reaction of an action . Love needs to be developed by practice. Love is not Liking. There is a lot of difference between Like and Love. That is why they are two separate words. I like you doesn't mean that I Love you. For LOVE one have to destroy his/her ego. Similarly being in-love and real love are totally different things. Real love comes after in-love syndrome takes its full course through the relationship.

    When you love somebody then you cherish their presence, you respect them, enjoy and trust them, spend time with them and want to know better. This is the stage which is everlasting and that is the actual love that starts after the in-love syndrome if the couple works on it. After the in-love syndrome is over the husband and wife can start loving each other or make their married life difficult.

    There is a simple analogy every couple should remember. Relationship is a Car. Driven by the Man. And in the passenger's seat is the wife. Men focus too much on the road and want to reach the destination which makes them less focus on the fuel tank. The fuel which keeps the car running is "LOVE". This fuel has to be filled before the tank gets empty. But Men usually wait till the meter goes really down and when it really needs to be done. Just three words can fuel up the tank. Women are waiting for men to say it. So brothers focus on the tanks and just say "I LOVE YOU".

    Wasalam.
    Wishing Everyone a happy life in this world and HereAfter:blk14:
     
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    Salaam, wise words my dear brother, indeed a wife needs her husbands love, not his bank balance, not cars, not houses and expensive jewellery, but love. You can provide her with all those things but if the love isn't there, the marriage isn't successful.
     
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    Masha Allah that's a post with some deep thoughts! Specially the statement that "Love needs to be developed by practice".

    And I 100% agree that men need to do this practice a lot more than they are currently doing! :)

    There's a psychology that men have by nature, that they are "goal oriented". And it's not bad, because Allah swt made them so.

    So men are more focused on providing the material things for their family (wife & kids). A husband should understand that his wife and his kids want more than just material things (food, shelter, clothing); they want his "quality time"!!! And his presence and his attention!!!

    And I like the title of the thread.....

    Remember to fuel up the tank ..... i.e. the "LOVE TANK"!!!

    And keep fueling it up from time to time!!!

    Great post brother @Hammad Hamid@Hammad Hamid !!! :vista03:
     
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    I would suggest 6 practical ways to the husbands to fuel up the tank!

    1. Say "I Love You" more often.
    2. Giving gifts to your wife every now and then.
    3. Helping wife in house chores or with the kids.
    4. Spending "Quality Time" with wife, e.g. going out for dinner, or going out for a picnic, etc.
    5. More "physical touch" i.e. kissing, hugging, tickling, playing around, etc. Even includes sexual touch, but don't restrict "physical touch" to sexual touch only!
    6. Appreciating your wife more often, i.e. regarding her looks, how good she cooks, how well she takes care of kids or you, etc.

    So all these acts would help in "fueling up the LOVE TANK" insha Allah!

    Brothers, these 6 points are practical points, not something theoretical. You can start acting on them from today!
     
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    Wow! You are amazing. Simple stances..and all clear!!!
     
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