Article Laylatuz Zafaaf- First Night of Marriage

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    WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT THE 1ST NIGHT OF
    MARRIAGE, {LAYLA TU ZAFAF}???
    The first night of marriage
    is one of the best night of
    marriage couples which
    they enter the night with
    full expectation of
    goodness but some merely
    lacks the knowledge about
    the first night which is
    bad!!!.
    It is unfortunate to notice
    that our young men and
    women who are absolutely
    not ready for marriage and
    even if they are ready for
    marriage seek to take
    advice from bad friends
    who dont know anything
    about that but to expose
    them to watch
    pornographic movie to
    satisfy their curiosity
    which is totally forbidden
    in Islam. The eye that is
    seeking to watch the
    nackedness of someone
    would be questioned and
    severe torment for such
    people.
    Dear Newly married
    couples or would-be
    married couples; The
    wedding night is such a
    blessful night in which
    every couple who have
    remain chaste and keep
    their virginity are waiting
    for cos of the enjoyment of
    the blessful night!!!.
    The night starts when the
    bride is presented to the
    groom and the groom
    enters the room with a
    smiling face and
    say'Assalam alaykum'and
    the shy bride with her soft
    enticing voice should
    respond'Wa alaykum
    salam'..!!!
    It is in the Sunnah that
    both couples should not
    rush into something very
    fast but should perform
    two nafila as narrated in a
    hadith of the Prophet:
    "When you enter upon your
    wife (for the first time), you
    have first to perform two
    rak'ats and then hold your
    wife's head and say, “
    Allaahumma ennee
    as'aluka khayrahaa wa
    khayra maa jabaltahaa
    alayhe, wa auuzubeka
    minn sharrehaa wa sharre
    maa jabaltahaa alayhe ).
    (O Allah! Bless my wife for
    me,bless me for my wife,
    give her bounty out of me,
    and give me bounty out of
    her!"Then you can do what
    you want."[Reported by
    Abu Dawud]. Then after
    that there follow the sacred
    union!!!.
    Before the sacred union,
    there are things which
    should be observe so as to
    make that night special.
    1.Make Her
    Comfortable.The husband
    should try to make the wife
    comfortable by presenting
    her a drink or a sweet cos
    from the hadith of Asmaa
    bint Yazeed ibn al-Sain
    who said'I prepared the
    beautiful Aishah for the
    Messenger of Allah (saw).
    Then he came and I called
    him to see her in all her
    beauty.He came and sat
    next to her. He was
    brought a large cup that
    contained milk. He drank
    and she put her head
    down.).
    2. The woman on that first
    night become very shy
    which is normal and so the
    husband should not be
    rude to her but should treat
    her with kindness and
    good romantic words.
    3. Cleanliness must be
    ensured on that night and
    it is preferable to make the
    surrounding tidy and not to
    use a bright light but a
    blue romantic light as
    some couples may feel
    uneasy with a bright bulb.
    5. Make sure you arrange
    your marriage at a time
    when the bride is clean and
    not in her menses as the
    Quran says :{They ask thee
    concerning women’s
    courses. Say: They are a
    hurt and pollution:So keep
    away from women in their
    courses, and do not
    approach them until they
    are clean. But when they
    have purified themselves,
    ye may approach them as
    ordained for you by Allah
    for Allah loves those who
    turn to Him constantly and
    He loves those who keep
    themselves pure and
    clean.}[Al-Baqarah: 222].
    So keep this in mind
    please!!!.
    4. It is permissible that
    they take off all their
    clothes and be completely
    naked, but it is better for
    them to be under a
    common sheet, for the
    Prophet(SAW) said:“ Verily
    Allah is modest and
    discreet and He likes
    modesty and
    discretion.” (Related
    byAhmad, Al-Tirmidhi, and
    AbuDawud).So please
    beware of that!!.
    The sacred union is not
    entered in without any
    intimacy like the way
    animals approach each
    other but it starts with an
    a romantic forelplay.
    Foreplay play a major role
    in the sexual stimulation of
    the couples especially the
    woman. Even the Prophet
    was narrated in hadith
    where the Prophet said we
    should marry a young girl
    so that you may play with
    her and she with you?
    [Reported by Al-Bukhari]
    Jabir also related,When I
    married, Allah’s Messenger
    (pbuh) said to me, What
    type of lady have you
    married? I replied, I have
    married a non-virgin
    woman. He said, Why, do
    not you have a liking for
    the virgins and for fondling
    them? [Reported by Al-
    Bukhari] . This is because
    a virgin woman has the
    luster of pleasure, clings to
    her husband and is easy to
    be learned what her
    husband wants to implant
    of good manners. So the
    first time to have sex with
    your partner is very critical.
    Both of you may be
    fumbling and do not know
    what he or she ought to
    do. This is because both of
    you plan how to lose his or
    her virginity as fast as
    possible.
    Kissing, fondling and
    Caressing one’s wife is so
    important at that moment.
    Speak to her about your
    love and passion.Get to
    know each other’s body.
    Take your time in caressing
    each other and you will
    began to stimulate and
    ready for the union. Some
    people think of foreplay as
    a disguesting and
    undecent to do with one's
    cos of their so_ called
    piety but let me tell you
    my brothers and sisters; it
    is not a sign of piety to
    abstain from such
    activities, for there is no
    place for monasticism
    (rahbaniyya) in Islam. It is
    a practical religion
    whereone may fulfil his/
    her needs in a permissible
    way. Piety (taqwa)
    .However, this is totally
    incorrect, for who can
    possibly be more
    pious,pure and God-fearing
    than the Messenger of
    Allah (Allah bless
    him&give him peace), yet
    not only did he encourage
    foreplay, etc,but practically
    engaged in it with his
    wives, as we have learnt
    from the authentic hadith.
    Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (Allah
    have mercy on him)reports
    in his famous “Tibbal-
    Nabawi” that the
    Messenger of Allah (Allah
    bless him & give him
    peace) forbade from
    engaging in sexual
    intercourse before foreplay.
    So In conclusion, it is
    important that the husband
    fulfils the wife right of
    foreplay and kissing. It is
    not something that he
    should be shy or reluctant
    about. Some individuals
    regard practices related to
    foreplay to be
    “inappropriate” and
    consider abstinence from
    such activities to be from
    piety (taqwa).However ,
    this is totally ignorance
    and so should practise
    Islam When the foreplay is
    at it peak and couples are
    ready for the union, the
    couples should recite this
    supplication which the
    Prophet was narrated
    saying :"If,whenever
    anyone of you makes
    sexual approach to his or
    her mate, you say:
    "( Allaahumma jannebnash
    shaytaan, wa jannebesh
    shaytaan maa razaqtanaa )
    .''O Allah, keep Satan away
    from us, and keep him
    away from any offspring
    You may bless us with,
    then the Satan will never
    harm any offspring you are
    destined to produce.
    People are curious to
    watch pornographic films
    in the view of getting to
    know styles for doing the
    union which is wrong!.
    There are many common
    ways in which couples
    physically position
    themselves for sexual
    intercourse.The man-on-
    top position is the most
    common and preferable of
    all intercourse positions. In
    some cases such a
    position may turn upside
    down, to be woman-on-top
    position. But it is harmful
    to have sexual intercourse
    with your wife while
    standing.It is also better
    not to eat a heavy
    meal,since that will just
    make you sleepy.
    Some women may feel
    uneasy when she is
    suddenly break her
    virginity but the pleasure is
    the most wanted and the
    satisfaction that you are
    doing it with a lawful
    man.And For your
    information, there is a
    moment in the union,
    which is the climax and the
    pleasure at that moment is
    a very satisfying
    enjoyment the couples had
    never had in their lives but
    waiting for such night,
    they enjoy it to the fullest
    cos that is what Allah has
    ordain for them.
    The man should seek to
    satisfy the woman sexually
    so does the woman and so
    in this case the Prophet
    said"Whoever has sexual
    intercourse with his wife
    and wants to do that again
    would better make
    ablution.”[Reported by
    Ahmad]''. And after the
    union, the couples should
    take bath and taking a
    ritual bath together is
    preffered cos it was
    narrated that the Prophet
    said :On the authority
    of'Aisha (may Allah be
    pleased with her) who
    said: “I used to bathe with
    the Prophet from a single
    container of water which
    was placed between us
    such that our hands
    collided inside it. He used
    to race me such that
    would say:"Leave some for
    me, leave some for me!.
    She added:"We were in a
    state of major ritual
    impurity (i.e. the state of
    janabah ). So it is very
    good for couples to have
    this bath before
    undertaking any act, then
    the blessful first night has
    ended.
    My dear Brothers and
    Sisters; islam has lay
    down everything for us so
    let not our curiosity expose
    us to the undecent dangers
    from the unbelievers. Islam
    has everything and so let
    seek knowledge please..
    My dear; the first night is
    full of blessing and
    enjoyment and it can only
    be enjoyed by virgins and
    sacred widows. Please
    keep your virginity for that
    special husband of yours
    please cos it is an honour
    to meet your husband a
    virgin. Dont date but enter
    into marriage please. A
    brother should remain
    chaste and not commit
    zina , worship Allah and
    obey His commandment
    and you shall be granted a
    good fantastic wedding
    night in sha Allah.
    May Allah show us that
    special night and may
    Allah bless any one who
    wants to enter into
    marriage but not dating.
    May Allah guide us all.
    Ameen. Allah knows
    best!!!.
     
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    that is great, and i recommended especially for the yet married to observed the steps it has a multiplier effect, influence the peaceful co-existence and helpful tips for good proudly products
    oh Allah help us in application and reward sister for this hero write up
     
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    امين يارب العالمين
     
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    the article is mind blowing,may Allah reward you abundantly
     

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