Advice WHAT A HUSBAND NEEDS FROM A WIFE IS NEVER SEX.

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  1. Abou Faaiz

    Abou Faaiz Moderator Staff Member Moderator Brother (Verified)

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    As salaam alaykum warahmatuLLAH wabaraakatuh.

    Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognised. This shows how important sex is in marriage.

    When you look at how agressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

    Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

    There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyong imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.

    The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

    What does the holy say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

    Sadly, many youngs ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.

    When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

    I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May Allah bless us with good marriage.
     
  2. M. Thiam

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    Ameen!
    Assalamu Alaykum,
    What you wrote is beautiful and on point. I would like to add to what you have said; We have to also learn to love each other for the sake of Allah and make our actions only for the sake of Allah. The love of the couples who come together for the sake of Allah have a strong foundation and they live Islamic lives and have Islamic home. The wife and husband who marry for the sake of Allah, they are the ones who have a blessed marriage and they keep an Islamic home. How beautiful are the homes, the children and the parent's interaction with one another when the love for Allah is in their homes. It's NOT the sex that keeps them together, It's the love for each other for the sake of Allah that keeps them together. Love for the sake of Allah turns a wife and husband's SEX into loving intimacy. And with this loving intimacy they grow to love each other, they become observant of each other's needs and they gain knowledge of Allah and of this beautiful religion. How beautiful are the families that love for the sake of Allah. May Allah give me a mate that loves for the sake of Allah, and all the Muslims. Ameen
     
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    Ma Shaa Allah
     
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